|(Taken from here, I do NOT own this photo)|
These things are merely scratching the surface of the realm of expectations that are put on young men starting at a fairly young age. Throughout their childhood, young men will adapt and accept the idea of stoic, heroic, strong, brave macho-man warrior that will swoop in and save the day and be loved by everybody, and this reflects later on in their lives. Most young men are confused and unsure of who they should be, when they look at themselves and then what a “perfect” man is, and they see just how big of a difference there really is between the two.
Throughout school lives, even as early as middle school, a large number of boys will compare themselves to that stereotype and wonder what went wrong, when really, nothing was wrong to begin with. Boys are shown less compassion than girls at early ages, because you have to “be a man”. Another part of this problem is the fact that there are countless double standards that apply to men. Men will usually receive much harsher sentences than women, the guys will usually be the ones to hold doors open for women, women can hit men, but men can’t hit men, etc, etc (not that chivalry as a whole, or being respectful is a bad thing).
One very prominent issue is the fact that men are often the instigators of violence, specifically violence in which a woman is the victim. The most probable cause for this is due to the fact that young men, especially in this day and age, are born and raised with the false pretext that men are the Macho Man Randy Savage of the household and have to be dominant over others in a way that can end up being harmful to others.
Starting from a very young age, as was said before, young men will often be taught to be the powerful figure that will be the enforcer of rules and be aggressive and assertive while doing so. This can clearly be connected to acts of violence that are often instigated by men, and also often on women.
Again, as i stated before, and would like to state again, i do not believe that women in our day and age, specifically in this society, do not face sexism as a whole, discrimination, or any other harsh treatment; because they do. I’m simply stating that young men are often put through similar stereotypes and told to act a certain way and be a certain person growing up with that kind of mindset, and growing up with people telling you what you should be as a man can be very confusing and can cause a lot of problems later down the road in life and often can lead to direct and indirect consequences including a warped view on people and the world as you grow older. Some people have experienced these kinds of expectations that people will try to have you grow used to, including the many things a “man” is supposed to be. Thanks for taking the time to read and hopefully consider these arguments.
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Post reflection, I feel like I still am in agreement with myself as far as the blog’s topic is concerned, and I still believe that the portrayal of men in the media and in any other fashion is just as important of a problem as it is for women. Both are very troubling topics and I feel like both need extra attention in our society. The reason I felt as if this kind of topic was worth writing an essay on in a digital citizenship class is mainly due to the fact that this topic is of importance to me and the fact that the media has a very, very prominent, influential role in this. The blogging process as a whole was very interesting and it’s not often that I feel like you are able to write an essay or blog post on a topic of your choosing like I was in this class. I feel like I got a chance to open my ideas to the rest of the world and I think that’s really neat. Thank you to all who participated in the discussion and everyone who took the time to read it.