Wednesday, February 12, 2014

Dating Dangerous for Teens?

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Online teen dating is becoming more popular and it is a problem for the teens in our society for many reasons. Teens are able to use apps to play games, text, Skype, and date online or to find someone to see. Because our technology is so advanced, we are able to send nudes, by using apps such as Snapchat or Hot or Not. By doing this, it causes an unsafe environment for teens for when they become older. Teens are able to turn to online media due to the advanced technology, they are also persuaded by TV shows, and lastly people aren’t always sure if the other person is telling the truth which creates drastic consequences that might hurt their college application or job.
As teens go through puberty they are more likely to be attracted to someone else because that person has something that they like, which causes them to something think irrationally. They turn to online because “it's efficient and available 24-hours a day".This creates an air of safety and security to people whom they talk to online because they aren’t face to face which can be more intimidating. As a result they start to get more personal and start to talk about inappropriate things. Boys are more likely to ".. use pornography on the Internet. According to surveys of Dutch adolescents (12 to 17 years old) and young U.S. teens (12 to 14 years old), about 30% of females and 50 to 70% of males have viewed sexually explicit images online” (Opposing Viewpoints). Because they view more explicit images they are more likely to desire someone they know in that sexual state which causes sexual activity at a young age. For example, if a 15 year old boy sees a nude image of a girl that is also his age but he doesn’t know, he will more likely want to see a girl he knows nude.

Also, another reason why teens turn to an online chat room is because that is what happens in the movies and TV shows they watch. For example, in the ABC Family series Pretty Little Liars a teenager named Hanna has a boyfriend and they have sex on the TV show in episode called A Person of Interest. As a result this causes young girls to want to be like her. When teens see something on TV, that influences them in many ways, one being that they look up to these actors and see them doing this like having sex so it must be “cool.” For example, if the most popular teenager on their favorite TV show is having sex and the other students believe that the actor is cool because he/she “nailed that girl/boy” then that influences the teenagers very much. There is now more “sexual content on television has increased from 56% in 1998 to approximately 70% in 2005." (Opposing Viewpoints.) This causes more users to be like teens on the TV because they are “popular” or are able to do these things.

Lastly, one of the most problematic reasons for teens dating online is that no one knows whom they are talking to. Many “people lie about their age, weight, height, income, and marital status.” (The Huffington Post.) When teens are online they are more likely to believe someone is another person because they are not as experienced as older people would be because of the teenagers their lack of experience. Because teens are more gullible, they are more likely to do something that someone tells them to do, especially if the teen believes they have a “connection.” Once this other person has those pictures they are never able to get them back. For example Snapchat, once the person sends the image they aren’t able to ever get it back. That person might then send it to someone else! Soon many people will have seen that picture because people send it to their friends or screenshot it or put it on Facebook. Teenagers need to make sure they know what goes out on the Internet and what doesn’t.

I believe that teenagers are unaware of how serious online dating is and it is a problem that should be fixed. Because teens are going through puberty that causes more sexual urges which then turns to irrational thinking. Since of all these emotions happen they decide to go online and see if there is anyone they would like to meet, which soon turns into nudes/sext/ unsafe sex which happens very often. These things happen because the technology and the media is able to influence the teens on what they do.

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Conclusion March 7 2014

Throughout digital citizenship, there has been many eye opening experiences in the digital world. Digital citizenship is a class that teaches student the importance of having a good digital footprint and I believe that without this class student would have many questions and would be confused on certain things regarding the media and what to do. The responses on the blog project were very interesting and brought many new ideas to my mind! One comment that came to mind was the idea that teens are very gullible and are willing to do the same things as actors do just to be like them. Another response was one that didn’t agree with this idea and that it depends on the person and their morals to do what they believe is right. Because my topic was on online teen dating and how media can affect it, I believe that the comments on the blog made me believe more that online dating for teens is not a good thing. As comments streamed in, I did not have to look for further research on the topic because I believe that most of the comments agreed with my point of view. However, some comments did challenge me to look at it through a different perspective. For example, one of the comments stated that it is in the teenagers morals to do these things. And I some what agree with this person, but overall the teenagers usually only react on feeling and do not think about the consequences of what might happen if this picture of thems gets out . Through the blogging process, I believe that the blog was a wonderful experience that taught me many things about my digital footprint and how teens are being affected by media and who knows how that might affect the future.


14 comments:

  1. This is very well written and true! You truly do not know who the person could be online! Many teens must be careful. And if the send a picture that they may regret, why would they even send it?

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    1. Thank you very much Anonymous. I also agree that teens must be careful and its scary to think what might happen if they aren't. I think that the reason why teens send things that they might regret later is because they are not thinking at the moment of what might happen. The teen is only thinking about what they are doing right now and not the main outcome that will happen if they send the picture. Thats why it happens to often because they aren't mature enough to know what will happen. Feel free to look at this link in case you are infestered. Link: http://www.aacap.org/AACAP/Families_and_Youth/Facts_for_Families/Facts_for_Families_Pages/The_Teen_Brain_Behavior_Problem_Solving_and_Decision_Making_95.aspx

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  2. I think your paper is very interesting and factual about online teen dating. I do believe that online dating also occurs because teens feel lonely and just want someone to notice them as a person. You had a good point that no one knows what the person would do with the pictures and that you won't get them back. I think teens should consider that more when they are making personal decisions like that. I enjoyed reading your paper and it certainly got my attention right away.

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    1. Thank you very much Anonymous. That is also another reason why teens turn to online dating. Because being a teenager is hard, it might give them a sense of belonging when they talk to someone online because they don't have to be compared to other people based on looks. Here is a link that has more facts about what teens do online. Link: http://www.netsmartz411.org/NetSmartz411/KnowledgeDetail.aspx?id=400237

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  3. i thing online dating is unsafe because the other person can find where you live if you tell them your name, address, phone number and where you go to school at so never ever tell anybody where you live , the state you live in, your family , pictures or where you go to school that is unsafe things to do so never ever send personal information and be safe everyone thx for the story about unsafe online dating for teenagers

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    1. Thank you Anonymous. I agree that you should not tell anyone you don't know any personal information because it might create many negative consequences in the end. Here is a link on how to make sure your personal information is safe and how to be safe from anyone wanting to get that information. Link: http://www.pamf.org/teen/life/risktaking/internet.html

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  4. Hey BeepMeep, I enjoyed your article and thought that it was very well written. The idea that celebrities, or in this case, a TV show actor, has such an effect on people who try to be like them is terrifying. The idea that there is such an impact of people, and that the media and celebrities hold so much power is also scary and important to grasp. The way this induces rational thinking between people, and also by pornography, as you mentioned before, I believe that people should try to act responsibly and disregard these images and media ideals. Also, I believe that online dating is risky, as you are sharing personal information to a huge pool of people. This, and also the idea of wanting to promote yourself as better, I believe, is the cause for the fake profiles. So, I think that online dating is not efficacious, and doesn't have many benefits to the superior amounts of negatives. Thanks for writing this article

    -NDS

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    1. Thank you NDS. It is amazing how the media is able to tell teens how to think without them even being there. It is terrifying and yet it is increasing more ever day. I also believe that online dating is not efficacious and doesn't do any good in the end, especially for teenagers and children. Here is a link on why parents need to talk to their child about using the media and online dating and how it is not a good thing. Link: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/claire-mccarthy-md/online-dating-for-teens_b_3682486.html

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  5. Hello BeepMeep. You raise some interesting points in this post. I'm not sure I agree with the idea that just because a teen sees something on TV that's what he or she wants for himself in real life. For example, you talked about a TV show and that teens will think what happens with the teens on the show is cool, so the watcher will do the same thing. I think it depends on the person and also what morals and values you have growing up. I do agree that a lot of teens don't realize how stupid it is to send certain pictures out online. My question for you is, what would you suggest to convince teens not to be so free with information or photos? Do you think it should be monitored by a parent or who? I think most parents have talked to their kids about internet dangers, what else can they do?

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  6. Great article BeepMeep! I think that what you said is true and I really do think that with all the media floating around social pressures can cause bad choices. You were right in saying that media really can make dating a train wreck and overall I liked your article.

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  7. Interesting post, BeepMeep! I enjoyed reading your views on the dangers of online relationships for teens and the related risks of drawing too many conclusions about acceptable behavior from the media. You mention that there are sites that encourage teens to share because the environment is less intimidating. I wonder if some of these sites are indeed safe, allowing teens who are shy or awkward or feel marginalized to reach out and establish meaningful relationships. I agree that teens should choose these opportunities carefully, but I also wonder if you know of any sites that do provide support for teens who are confused or lonely? Thank you for sharing your views on this topic! --Ms. Riches

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  8. Hello BeepMeep, I liked the use of a TV show that is relatively popular as an example. But I do not believe that if someone watches a TV show they instantly want to do whatever was in that TV show just because their favorite character did it. I realize that there are some people that just don't understand that their actions have consequences, and so they do what they please. But for the most part I think teens know what they are doing can effect their future, my question to you is how many people actually get in trouble for what they do?

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